Good Items for Shitty Conditions

When a friend or loved one goes through shit, the worst thing you can do is nothing. A bouquet of flowers, a casserole delivered to your doorstep, or an offer to watch your pup for a few hours is a strong assurance that whatever he’s going through, he’s not alone.

When you offer your time, take responsibility for a task and be specific. While it is well and good to offer “whatever you need,” it is your friend’s responsibility to come up and ask for help if something happens that can feel difficult. It’s much easier to take someone direct from you to mow your lawn at 10:30 a.m. on Saturday or watch your kids while you have an appointment.

Although a gift of condolence is less about the gift and more about the fact that you are there, we like to tailor what we give to someone based on how they deal with difficult times. We’ve rounded up some ideas below – along with florists shipping nationwide and the goop recipes we use when bringing food to a loved one.

1. For self-catering

   Time speaks to this person to me. Bubble baths, face masks, and comfort TV can all be involved.

2. This oaky, nutty elixir is formulated with adaptogenic reishi and ashwagandha.

   

   Wylde One Yoga in a Goop Cup, $ 35

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3. Let her put the whole pillow in the microwave for a minute and place it over her shoulders.

   

   Ostrich pillow heated neck wrap, $ 45

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4. Something soft to slide onto your feet.

   

   Washable Morihata leather
   Room shoes, $ 196

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5. This bath is designed to soften the heat with oils and extracts of chia seeds, valerian root, Australian sandalwood, wild frankincense and myrrh.

   

   goop Beauty “The Martini” Emotional
   Detox Bath Soak Goop, $ 35

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6. These eye gels are incredibly soothing – even more so if you keep them in the refrigerator.

   

   Jillian Dempsey Moisturizing Eye Mask, $ 75

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7. This diffuser, as well as a set of essential oil blends, is our favorite gift for most occasions.

   

   vitruvi goop exclusive
   Stone diffuser, $ 119

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8. Something foamy, warm and uplifting to sip on.

   

   GOLDE cocoa turmeric
   Latte Mix, $ 29

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9. Call it a game, call it active meditation – it’s easy to drag yourself into this puzzle and forget about everything else for a while.

   

   Piecework Puzzles Forbidden Fruit Puzzle goop, $ 36

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1. For the person who always works up a sweat

   Falling from your head into your body can be healing – here are a few things that can help.

2. To help you release tension and relax your body.

   

   OPTP LoRox Aligned Roller Loop, $ 54

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3. These wrist weights add a little extra challenge to the workout – and they’re cute. This gift goes well with an offer to go with them whenever they want.

   

   Bala Weighted Wrist Bangles Goop, $ 49

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4. A basis for all movements that feel good right now.

   

   goop x PUMA yoga mat goop, $ 50

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5. Nothing beats crying in Spin class.

   

   ClassPass gift card

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1. For the venter

   Letting it all out can be a powerful way of processing emotions, whether that be
   Throw thoughts on a piece of paper or find the right ear.

2. Drop in with your friend’s coffee order, lace up your sneakers and hit the sidewalk …

   

   W&P Porter ceramics
   To-go mug goop, $ 25

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   Fairtrade
   Specialty coffee, $ 28

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4. Or sink on the couch with a bottle of your favorite pinot …

   

   SommSelect Wine of the day SommSelect, prices vary

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5. Or nibble on something sweet while you surprise it.

   

   FX Chocolate FX Exhale Goop, $ 40

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6. Talkspace makes gift cards for online therapy sessions and unlimited instant messaging with a therapist.

   

   Talkspace Therapy Gift Card Talkspace, starting at $ 79

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7. A nice notebook for expressive journaling doesn’t hurt either. (One exercise to suggest: this writing exercise to purify emotions.)

   

   Magic of I Vegan Leather Diary Magic of I, $ 28

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1. For the spiritual traveler

   If you feel more yourself after an energy healing, you may find something useful in these gifts.

2. Give the Inner Compass general-purpose maps to someone looking for a little bit of orientation. (There is also a special deck for love and relationships.)

   

   Inner compass cards Inner compass cards goop, $ 55

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   Inner compass cards Inner compass
   Love Cards, $ 55

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4. A little something for your altar.

   

   goop x Cinnamon Projects goop-exclusive agate
   Burner Incense Set Goop, $ 295

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5. Option A: Tickets for a local sound bath. Option B: a singing bowl that you can play at home to move stuck emotions.

   

   Create great standards
   Goop Singing Bowl Set, $ 185

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6. Breathwork teacher Andrew Smart has a practice for everything you need right now – calm, clarity, energy, emotional catharsis …

   

   Chronicle Books Breathing Exercises, $ 17

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7. Vancouver-based spirit communicator Mimi Young travels to unseen worlds to connect with your guides, heal past lives, and resolve spiritual entanglements. (She also does medium readings.)

   

   CEREMONY Distance Shamanic Reading CEREMONY, $ 325

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8. Author Mari Andrew’s self-illustrated essays celebrate the powerful emotions that make life whole.

   

   Mari Andrew My Inner Sky Book Store, $ 20

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1. Send flowers when in doubt

   A bouquet of flowers is standard for a reason. It lets someone know that you are thinking
   of them as they add a little moment of joy or beauty to their day.

2. Popupflorist ships its beautiful dried bouquets (and flower sage bundles) nationwide.

   

   Popupflorist Dried Bouquet Popupflorist, $ 50

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3. Floom works with local florists across the country to deliver fresh stems same day.

   

   Floom Bouquet Floom, prices vary

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4. The florist Spencer Falls from Venice puts these earthy arrangements together.

   

   The Unlikely Florist Bouquet The Unlikely Florist, from $ 50

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5. Tiny Feelings to Soothe Big Feelings: These bright and cheery bundles are available in NYC.

   

   Tiny Feelings Bouquet Tiny Feelings, starting at $ 100

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6. For more local flowers, see our guide to the best florists in each city.

1. The next generation casserole

   If you can prepare dinner, you can take it off your plate. Each of these recipes tastes great fresh, but can also be frozen well. What’s Helpful for Your Recipient: When something bad happens, people get inundated with fresh food to begin with. When these deliveries are delivered, they will have that supply in their freezer.
   (And a gift card for your favorite snack bar? Also a great idea.)

2. Deliver with a loaf of sourdough sliced ​​(in the freezer if needed) and you have a whole meal.

   

   Vegan cashew tomato soup

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3. These dumplings take some time, but they are well worth it.

   

   Chicken cabbage and zucchini dumplings

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4. This recipe makes a lot of lasagna. It’s rich and calming, and makes for amazing leftovers.

   

   Lasagne with sausage ragout

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5. Something sweet to nibble on in the morning

   

   Buckwheat banana bread
   with salt butter

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We hope you enjoy the products we recommend here. Our goal is to only suggest things that we love and that we think you can, too. We also like transparency, meaning full disclosure: we may collect a percentage of sales or other compensation when you shop using the external links on this page.